(Trigger Warning) Reddit Offers an Outlet for Rapists

Trigger Warning here: discussing rape/sexual violence

Full Disclosure: I’ve never been raped and I acknowledge that if someone has experienced sexual violence they will likely feel differently about this article than I do. 

Rapists Explain Themselves on Reddit, and We Should Listen

I’ve linked an article above that discusses a thread on Reddit asking rapists to explain their side of the story.

Most of the outcry I’ve heard around the femisphere is that these men are being painted as victims, rather than as predators.

I agree, that is  incredibly problematic.

However, I do think hearing their side of what happened does offer insight into the damaging psychology of how we are currently raising our boys.

I haven’t read the actual Reddit thread myself and I am not sure I want to weed through every excuse for that inexcusable behavior. However, in the Jezebel article I did find it interesting that several boys felt they “couldn’t control their hormones” (I’m paraphrasing from some but indirectly quoting others).

I wonder if this is partially conditioning from how (starting at a very young age) we force girls to cover up, quiet down and be careful for their own protection. Rather than holding boys accountable for their behavior towards women’s bodies, we let their hormones and impulses be excused by what we label a women’s carelessness. (She was drunk, she was dressing slutty, she was promiscuous, on and on. . .)

I would love to know other’s feeling on this matter. Do you think hearing their side is totally worthless? Do you think it offers too much space for the predators to play the victim? Or do you think there is something to learn from this?

Until next time ❤

 

 

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2 thoughts on “(Trigger Warning) Reddit Offers an Outlet for Rapists

  1. I guess I’d have to look at the thread to really flesh out my feelings on the issue, but my gut reaction is that I want to read them. It’s probably so many of the same excuses ad nauseum that it would validate a pattern. However, giving perpetrators of sexual violence a ‘fair say’ may lend them too much credibity and assume self-awareness/accountability. Other people who have not actually acted on violent thoughts may interpret these patterns as validation of shitty behavior.

  2. No I definietly think that we need to listen to their side, so that we can try to learn how to educate or raise boys so that they do not become rapists. I do however think a lot of rapists relish power so I think while we acknowledge their side we need to make it clear that this is the wrong path for boys.

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